If fear is the main factor behind excessive violence, then how can we approach our individual and collective fears? The antidote to fear is curiosity, inquiry. And yet, we have limited resources, specially time and attention, and at any point in time, we can only conduct a limited number of inquiries. If we decide to push ourselves toward being open and curious, the results will be the opposite. It increases our level of anxiety and may result in hidden violence. I suggest an alternative approach. We want to give ourselves the freedom, the option, to stay curious, open and calm. By consistently offering ourselves these "choices", we cultivate hope; hope as the orientation of the soul and the ability to stay witness.