Motivated by a recent Shadi's post on "abuse in relationship" I started reading a very simple book on teen abuse, for teenagers, by Sherri Mabry Gordon, "Beyond Bruises: The Truth About Teens and Abuse". Here are a couple of quotes:
``Author Patricia Evans, and expert on verbal abuse, says that `standing up to a barrage of lies ... is emotionally exhausting.' She says that teens who are verbally or emotionally abused often struggle to get a grip on reality because the abuser in their life is defining reality for them. As a result, they suffer from confusion, mental anguish, trauma, depression, an inability to focus, physical illness, or in some cases a complete loss of feelings.
... one study found that as many as 80 percent of young adults who had been abused as children had at least one psychiatric disorder by age twenty-one. These young adults also had a number of other problems. These included anxiety, eating disorders, and suicide attempts.
Long-term abuse also can disconnect teens from their emotional selves. In other words, they learn how to stop feeling. And with the inability to feel comes a lack of empathy for anyone else. This is especially common among boys who survive abuse by shutting down their emotional awareness." Beyond Bruises, pp. 61--63