Thursday, November 05, 2009

Interesting Article on Confidence:

From NPR: [link]

For Parents, The Return Of Tough Love?

September 30, 2009

The days of the so-called "helicopter parent" are numbered — or they should be, according to author Po Bronson.

Although the impulse to hover over our kids may stem from the best of intentions, Bronson argues that over-praising and over-nurturing may do more harm than good. His new book NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children expands on a series he wrote with co-author Ashley Merryman for New York magazine, exploring how American pop culture has misread the fine print of parental research.

Another related story [link]


  1. yes, it is THE hot topic of children psychologist and child behavioral therapists. Research shows that the most successful adults are the ones with high self esteem. Again the research shows that the good self esteem doesnt come from inappropriate praising but if anything, from strict parenting. It certainly does not mean that parents are not to show love and affection but it puts a lot emphasis on maintaining healthy boundaries and being consistent and firm.
    I will add the name of this book to my "must some day read" list.

  2. At least I know it's not over in Iran yet; unfortunately, here everybody is still on that "helicopter parenting" method. And oh god it's sooo annoying. I'm happy people are working to eradicate this.

  3. Shadi,
    I am not an expert in this issue and we do not have kids, so what do I know :))) but I was talking to Sima and she thinks that the best way to increase self esteem is to "give responsibility, and freedom to choose accordingly" to a kid, and it kind of make sense to me ...

    I guess more communication means that people in Iran adopt things faster now, both good and bad things :)))


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